Couples Therapy
A space for both of you
to be heard
Couples therapy creates room for the conversations that are too charged to have on your own. I work with partners who want to understand each other better, communicate more honestly, and find their way back to each other.
When couples reach out
Most couples wait too long. By the time they call, patterns are deeply entrenched and both partners feel unheard. The conflict is rarely about what it appears to be about. Underneath arguments about dishes or money or sex are usually questions about worth, belonging, and whether they still matter to the person they chose.
I work with couples at many different stages. Some come in the middle of a crisis. Others come when things are not bad exactly, but something has gone quiet and they want to understand why. Some come to decide whether to stay together. All of these are valid reasons to show up.
How couples therapy works
We meet together, all three of us in the room. My job is not to take sides. It is to slow the conversation down enough that you can actually hear each other, not just react.
I pay attention to patterns: what gets said, what does not get said, how each of you responds when you feel threatened or dismissed. Over time, we build a shared language for what is happening between you and a shared understanding of what each of you actually needs.
Progress is not always linear. Some sessions will feel productive and connecting. Others will surface things that are hard to sit with. Both are part of honest work.
What I bring to the room
My approach is grounded in psychodynamic thinking. I am curious about how each person's history shapes what they bring to the relationship: the wounds that get triggered, the defenses that get activated, the patterns that were formed long before this partnership.
That does not mean we spend every session talking about childhood. It means I have a deeper frame for understanding why two people who love each other can hurt each other so reliably, and what it takes to break those cycles.
I work with couples of all configurations. LGBTQ+ couples, mixed-background couples, couples navigating open relationships, couples in different life stages. The work is the same: understanding, honesty, and the willingness to be known.
Who this is for
- ●You and your partner keep having the same argument without resolution
- ●Communication has broken down or become mostly transactional
- ●Something has happened that damaged trust and you want to repair it
- ●You feel distant from your partner and are not sure how to reconnect
- ●You are navigating a major transition and want support as a couple
- ●You are unsure about the future of the relationship and need space to decide
Frequently asked questions
What if my partner does not want to come?
It happens more than you might think. If one partner is reluctant, we can start with individual sessions to understand what is driving the hesitation. Sometimes a partner engages once they see the process is not about assigning blame. If your partner remains unwilling, individual therapy can still help you navigate the relationship from your side.
Do you work with couples who are considering separation?
Yes. Discernment is a legitimate reason to be in couples therapy. Sometimes the most honest work is figuring out whether you want to stay together, with enough clarity that whatever you decide is a real choice rather than a drift.
How often do couples meet?
Most couples start with weekly sessions. This frequency matters because the work builds on continuity. Once things stabilize, some couples move to every other week. I recommend against less frequent than that for active couples work.
Do you ever meet with each partner individually?
Occasionally, and by agreement. Individual sessions within couples therapy can be useful at specific moments, but I am careful about how I manage confidentiality and dual relationships. We would discuss the structure together before any individual sessions.
Ready to take the first step?
I offer a free consultation so we can talk about what you are looking for and whether we are a good match.
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